Love. It’s one of the world’s most talked about topics. We all think we know what it is, but when you start thinking about it, love is a complex emotion. It’s easy to feel but hard to define. We’ll take a closer look at love and try to understand some of its complexities. Here are seven facts about love:
Love is not a feeling.
Despite what popular culture might have you believe, love is not a feeling. It’s an emotion, sure, but it’s not simply a matter of “feeling” something. Love is an action. It’s something you do. You can’t just sit around and wait for love to happen to you—you have to go out and make it happen.
In marriages, when you don’t feel loved, it does not mean that you don’t love your partner; it only means that you need to work harder at expressing your love.
This can be the root of marital problems. One person feels neglected and unimportant, while the other doesn’t realise their actions are causing this feeling. Creating that ‘loving feeling’ that we all crave takes some consistent effort.
Love is a choice
Love is a mysterious thing. In the early stages of your relationship, you may be infatuated by some of your partner’s qualities. You may even be caught up in the honeymoon glow. But when time moves on and you experience the ups and downs of a relationship, love is something you choose to do. You can choose to love someone even if they’re not perfect. You can choose to love someone even when they make mistakes. You can choose to love someone even when things are tough.
One of the secrets to a long-lasting relationship is choosing to love your partner every day and being committed to staying in the relationship—even when things are tough.
Love is not always easy.
Love is often portrayed as this perfect, blissful emotion that makes everything better. And while it’s true that love can make you feel incredibly happy, it’s not always easy. Love can be messy and complicated. It can be frustrating and inconvenient and can make you feel angry and hurt. But that doesn’t mean that it’s not worth it.
Because even though love isn’t always easy, it’s still the best thing in the world. It’s worth the fight because, at the end of the day, love is what makes us happy.
Love takes effort.
If you want your relationship to last, you must be willing to put in the effort. Love is not a passive emotion—it requires work. You need to be willing to communicate with your partner, compromise and put in the time and effort to make things work. If you’re not willing or able to do these things, your relationship is likely to struggle.
Simple gestures of love and affection—like saying “I love you,” holding hands, or cuddling – can make a big difference in a relationship. These small acts of love let your partner know you care about them and are committed to building a strong, intimate relationship.
Love requires giving & taking.
In any relationship, there needs to be a balance of giving and taking. If one person is always giving and the other is always taking, it may cause a lot of frustration. Both parties need to be willing to give and take.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to keep a score of who does what, but it does mean that both parties need to be happy with the level of effort they’re putting in. If one person feels like they’re doing all the work, it’s only a matter of time before there will be conflict.
Love is worth fighting for.
No relationship is perfect—there will always be ups and downs. But if you are genuinely committed to someone, you’ll be willing to fight for the relationship—even when things don’t go as planned.
You might not always see eye-to-eye with your partner, but that’s okay. What matters is that you’re both willing to work through the tough times and become stronger on the other side. Every relationship will experience good times, which feel great, but the hard times will require you both to fight for each other.
Love is worth sacrificing for.
There will be times in any relationship when one person has to make a sacrifice for the other. It might be as small as skipping a party so your partner can study for an exam or something as big as moving to a new city for your partner’s job.
It’s important to remember that love will always require sacrifice. The word ‘sacrifice’ is not a common word spoken about today. People often think of marriage, or a committed relationship, as something similar to signing a contract. A contract can be opted out of when one doesn’t meet the obligations.
This is a devastating attitude to have towards the one you love. If you are genuinely committed to each other, you’ll be willing to sacrifice for them—no matter how big or small.
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