Making an apology can be a difficult task, it means admitting that you were wrong and swallowing some pride to do it. Because of this, often couples avoid apologizing, or make half-hearted attempts because the discomfort they feel is too confronting.
You can blame, you can make excuses, you can deflect responsibility, or you can live in denial. All of these choices will protect your pride, but they won’t heal your marriage.
Here are 4 steps to make a proper apology:
Show sincere regret for how you’ve hurt your partner
Take responsibility for what you have done
Ask for their forgiveness
Fix the problem you caused by your behaviour if you can
The truth is that we all make mistakes so as you forgive your partner, do your best to let the incident go. Sometimes that may take time and it may be that their actions need to do the talking, but an authentic apology, followed by forgiveness, has the power to free up hurt hearts and give your marriage the best opportunity to believe in each other again.
Resentment is the result of many undealt with hurts, don’t let it destroy the love and intimacy in your marriage.
CONSIDER how you currently apologize. Are there any steps that get left out when you make an apology to your partner?
Have a great week!
Rick & Fi